At some point, women start to question where they are, what they have done with their life and what now, what next? They reconsider their decisions, partner relationships, their moves at a given moment, sacrifices, compromises. They're trying to figure out where they've lost themselves trying to catch up. They become aware of the fact that somewhere between obligations and expectations, both their own and those of others, they have lost the most valuable thing - themselves. Starting from ourselves, we always think that we are the only ones in that situation, that no one understands us, that we are trapped in our own body, and we don't know which way to go, that our skin is tight. Sound familiar?

The first thing that a woman willingly but unconsciously gives up is time for herself.

In a 24-hour day, set aside at least two hours a day for yourself. Whether you will spend that time reading a book, going to the cinema, theater, drinking, training or simply looking at a point on the wall with yourself is up to you. But it must be the time when you are the center of the universe. Whatever you do, do it for yourself. Allow yourself to disconnect from reality. Do what you love. Selfishly create your own mini world where you are just YOU. Not a daughter, not a wife, not a mother. Integral VI. And keep that time selfishly. Over time, it will become clear to you that the time you set aside for yourself, metaphorically speaking, means health. Each of us needs a break from everyday obligations and imposed relationships, allow yourself to relax.

Another thing that a woman gives up is time with her friends.

When entering a marriage/relationship, it is natural to socialize with other "married" couples, right? We have common friends and topics, we face the same challenges. It mostly boils down to his friends and the wives of those friends, who are not necessarily bad, on the contrary, BUT they are not our friends. When we add children to that, it's the whole package. Completely imperceptibly, they become people with whom we spend more and more time because we are united by a common interest - married life, obligations and children. It's all nice, but it shouldn't replace the time we spend with our friends. To the friends we know from the world where there were no marriages or children yet. With them, we are different, freer, unburdened... in a word, our own.

The third thing that women neglect is career, personal growth and development.

Somehow things are set up like that, that you are in the last place. The husband works, he has jobs and obligations of various kinds, sometimes he works two jobs to provide enough for everything, he is never there, because for God's sake he works, and the children become your obligation, your "career". It is often and easily forgotten that we too once worked and had our calling, interests and higher purpose. We are often on sick leave - because we are mothers. Our life boils down to pick-up, drop-off, school, training, foreign language, buy gifts because the weekend is coming and with it children's birthdays... all in all full time! Who will still have time to work on themselves and improve professionally... Mistake! A mistake for several reasons... when a mother works, in parallel with raising children, she also builds her career, she becomes more independent, remains satisfied and fulfilled, sometimes too tired - yes! but she feels like a living being, not like a taxi driver and a housekeeper, while giving the children an example of how they too should be hard-working and well-restrained tomorrow. We have examples where mothers never worked, they took care of the children for God's sake (what does that mean they are better mothers than us? More dedicated?) They wait for you and the children tell them tomorrow - what do you know, you never worked. And all that work at home, cooking, ironing, scrubbing, servicing the children, falls into the water, nobody remembers that, nobody gives importance to that.

 

Ask yourself, is this what you want for yourself?

 

The good news is that by working on ourselves, we can always keep what is good in our life, but also find the old self that we lost somewhere along the way! If at some point you decide to work on it, to reconsider your decisions and actions at that moment, if you feel that, somewhere along the way between all the roles, you have lost yourself, it is not too late! Please contact us to reconcile the conflicting parties. By integrating those two worlds, your universe will be complete. I'm here for you!