The role of women

 

Women are very complex beings...wives, mothers, businesswomen, housewives...they are capable of bringing new life, motivating the masses, ruling the world, but they cannot overcome their only and strongest opponent - themselves. 

 

This "only" opponent was written for a reason. Because I really think it is. A woman is her own biggest driver or biggest enemy. Unfortunately, more often the latter. It restrains itself, limits itself, retreats before other people's moral principles and values. And then what happens? Not knowing enough about himself, he forms patterns of behavior created according to other people's values, principles and norms... he builds walls, sets boundaries, and all he really wants is the freedom to make his own choice, the right to make his own mistake, the right to a new beginning. To breathe fully. With the confusion between unconscious desires and other people's values, an I in her struggles, eager for recognition, appreciation, respect, and this other imposed being that restrains her and trips her up at every step.

 

By defeating that opponent, not only the battle is won, but the entire war. There is no greater victory than mastering yourself, your thoughts, desires and emotions. Another important thing is to be honest with yourself. But to be brutally honest... Allow the unconscious mind to say what it has, take off the gloves and dive deep into your being, your desires and dreams, become aware of your desires, and now... which path we will take, let the choice remain up to us. But at least it will be a conscious choice.  

Know that not everyone will always understand you, support you, and that's ok. It is important that you know where you are going and that you are sure that it is your way. On that path, the people around you will crystallize themselves and the circle will be purified. You just believe in yourself.

Getting to know yourself is a very complex terrain. And not all of us are ready at all times to take that path. But I claim that, in addition to getting to know yourself, it is the most difficult, the most challenging, but at the same time the most beautiful path you can choose for yourself, it is also an inevitability, especially when women reach their forties.

All years are beautiful for themselves, each decade brings something special with it, youth is youth to understand each other, but I love my age so much, the maturity and knowledge I have gained, that I would never go back to my early youth. On the contrary, I look forward to each new year that comes because I know that it brings me new experiences and new challenges.

 

When I started the path of my personal development and got acquainted with the basics of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), I was so impressed that I shared my enthusiasm, knowledge and self-knowledge with everyone, thinking that everyone would share that enthusiasm with me. What a tribute to inexperience... most of them looked at me with incomprehension, and the first comment that awaited me was "are you sure it's not a sect...?"“

What "fed" me there, in addition to all the knowledge, learning and work on myself, were the people. Accomplished, self-aware people who came with the same goal - to work on themselves.

A few years later, the NLP master followed, only when I felt the need to continue what had been started. They asked me why the break, and I was sure that it was the right move for me only then. It took time for it to pass, for the pieces to be put in order, for everything to fall into place, for me to become aware of what I had unconsciously adopted and to want to move on... more precisely... to feel the need to go deeper and further in getting to know myself.

 

Life has various scenarios for us and imposes various roles on us, and it is up to us not to get lost playing them. To balance and reconcile them. For example, for a long time I thought that a woman can be complete and fulfilled only if she makes a very good balance and realizes herself equally in the role of wife, mother and business woman. And then I started to listen to my friends and acquaintances, of whom there are many and they are all different, one is single and wants to get married, the second only wants a partner, the third only wants a child, the fourth also has a husband and a child, the fifth is already married with children, the sixth does not want children, the seventh is planning to divorce, the eighth is already divorced with children, without children, the ninth is pursuing a career... there are various combinations. Looking at each one individually and talking to them, I changed my previous belief about a "fulfilled woman". We are not all the same, and there is no rule, there is no formula for such a thing. That was just one of my beliefs. There is only what fulfills us personally and above all makes us happy... If we ignore the expectations imposed on us by the environment, we are not all for the same role. We are not all birth mothers, we are not all for a partner and no, we are not all for a career or children. Whatever it is that fulfills us, that's what we should be going for. Self-realization is important when we get out of all those life roles, who are we then?

If someone asked you to describe yourself, what would you say? Who are you when you are not in any imposed role, the role of mother, wife, colleague, boss? What is it that you subconsciously want and that is chasing you all the time? What is it that fulfills you and makes you happy? What makes your heart beat? Try to answer this question for yourself. When you want something, you subconsciously work to make it happen. That is why it is very important to imagine and even more important to visualize! Once you know who you are, keep that integral part of you. You never know when you'll need to regenerate.

A woman is the best version of herself when she is confident in herself and happy with herself. Have you ever had a problem with a beautiful, smart, accomplished woman in your life? You're not, I know for sure. Because such women do not have time to deal with other people's lives and other people's things, such women have only one project - themselves. She deals with her mental hygiene, chooses the people she hangs out with and surrounds her. She puts herself first. This may sound selfish to some, but it is not. There is nothing wrong with making yourself a priority, working to get to know yourself as best you can. Think, who will love us if we don't love ourselves?